January 23rd, 2010 by admin

Our whole lives we have played “Catch Up on the Weekends”! This put a sense of dread into our daily life. We no longer looked forward to a wonderful weekend filled with fun with our friends and family. This all started when we were children. It is how our mothers did it! We would have to spend all day Saturday cleaning house or we were banished to our rooms for the evening. I truly believe this is why we despise cleaning house. It has always been a punishment for us. I want you to have a reward for your Home Blessing Efforts! A Saturday to play is a great gift for you!

The solution to saving your Saturdays is very simple. Let’s think about how many hours you spend frantically cleaning to catch up from a whole week tossing your routines out into the street! Between our piling and procrastination our homes look like a bomb went off. You can look at a room and see evidence of the things that were done this week. You know the package that had to be wrapped for a birthday party or the whole week’s worth of mail piled on the kitchen counter that is about to fall into the floor.

On Saturday you don’t wake up all excited about cleaning all day. You sleep in a bit; drag around in your pajamas for a couple of hours with a pot of coffee to get you moving in the right direction. By the time you get started it is already noon! The next six hours are spent cleaning like a banshee so that you don’t feel terrible. All the while you are yelling out orders for everyone in the family to get in gear! I get sick just thinking about what we have done us and our family; all because we lie to ourselves with these words; I DON’T HAVE TIME!

The truth is; what you don’t have is ROUTINES! You have the time, you just choose not to do anything because you don’t think you have six hours to do it right! Well you don’t have six  hours to clean like a banshee but you do have 15 minutes.

Implementing just five minutes in the morning, when you come home from work and before bed will give you back your Saturdays. Maybe we can call this our 5 Minute Room Saturday Rescue.

The secret is to pick up after yourself and get the family to do it right along with you! It can become a fun game. Set your timer three times a day, morning, when you get home from work or school and just before bed. Everyone has to put away the things that belong to them. It is up to you to remember to do it. When you forget you only make it harder to do the next time.

This does not mean you can leave the dishes in the sink and on the table. This is part of cleaning up after dinner and shining your sink. If you do this all week long then on Saturday you can do your Weekly Home Blessing Hour! With your piles put away and hot spots extinguished, your Weekly Home Blessing Hour is a Breeze! Then you are off to have some fun.

For more help getting rid of your CHAOS, check out her website and join her free mentoring group at  www.FlyLady.net or her book, Sink Reflections published by Bantam and her New York Times Best Selling book, Body Clutter published by Fireside. Copyright 2010 Marla Cilley Used by permission in this publication.

January 18th, 2010 by admin

This time of year we all start getting cabin fever. This sickness is fueled by the never ending flow of our junk mail filled with gardening and seed catalogs. I am a sucker for them. The thought of a beautiful garden filled with fruit trees, butterfly attacking bushes and perennials makes me smile.

When we first married the patch of dirt in front of our home would not grow anything. We are surrounded by a forest. The only open spot is just above our home and where a maple tree had to be removed. Direct sunlight only happens at noon.  I spent a whole winter plotting and scheming.

When I moved into Robert’s home in 1996, I was determined to make it mine too. I was not going to move in and not unpack! This went for the yard too! The first thing I need to do was to figure out what I liked and what I didn’t like about the front yard.

That was easy! I didn’t like the ivy that grew on the concrete block wall that was beside our driveway. The rest was going to be a little more challenging. As those gardening books and magazines flooded into our home I would spend 15 minute culling through them with scissors in hand.  Each time I saw something I liked, I would cut it out and put it into a sheet protector. Then place that sheet into my Garden Control Journal.  This was just a place to keep my wish list. It had no plan except for holding the things that I loved along with some interesting articles. After I was through clipping pictures I would toss the magazine into the recycle bin.

Slowly my vision for our garden began to blossom in my head and my Garden Control Journal. But it was not on the ground in front of our home. No one was going to see it stuck in my book. For this vision to come to life there had to be actions. I began one babystep at a time and with the use of a timer. I knew me! I can hyper-focus with the best of them. I would set my timer for 15 minutes and go pull some ivy! Each day I could declutter a little bit of the ivy! The best part was that I didn’t kill myself in the process. That decluttered ivy unveiled an ugly block wall. One project led to another one. Isn’t that the way it always goes. Thank Goodness! We don’t have to do it all at once!

I know you really want to get your home organized RIGHT THIS MINUTE, but stop yourself! I don’t want you to crash and burn! You can’t develop habits that will take root if you try to do everything at once. Babysteps and being kind to yourself are the seeds to growing effective habits and cultivating them into the routines that will nourish you the rest of your life.

Are you ready to plant the seeds of change in your home? Get out your timer! Set it! Then go shine your sink! It is the actions that plant the seeds; not the wishing for the clean house!

January 10th, 2010 by admin

All I have ever wanted for you was happiness! As I stand in front of my fireplace, I realized that I have surrounded myself with things that make me happy.  Pam and Peggy’s book the Happiness File taught me many wonderful ways to nurture myself and identify what really does make me happy.  At first you don’t know what makes you happy. You just know what does not make you happy.

For me it started with shining my sink. I knew that a sink full of dirty dishes made me as bad as that nasty water smelled. When I focused on that one habit of keeping my sink clean and shiny, I found happiness each morning. The joy of cooking returned because I was not already behind before starting to cook. That one little habit changed my life.

My next habit was decluttering for 15 minutes a day. I had held on to so many painful memories. The act of getting those out of my home gave me joy.  I would never have to feel those unhappy memories again as I walked across the room. Now my home only has good memories. If an item becomes a bad memory I immediately declutter it.

I learned from the Happiness File that simple routines for the morning, afternoon and evening can free me up to enjoy the beauty that is all around me. With my work done I was free to play, free to create or free to just sit! No guilt! A life with no guilt is a happy life.

Do you want to find happiness? Just sitting and hoping that happiness will find you is not going to happen. It takes practice to find out what brings you joy. With The Happiness File, I was able to work on one habit each month to help me find my joy.

With this habit of practicing new things each month I found my calling in life! I built my very own happiness file right under my own roof. I had happy places in every room of my home: My kitchen had a clean and shiny sink, my living room had my favorite chair and a clean coffee table, my bedroom had a comfy bed that was made and my bathroom was clean an inviting each time I went in there. That was a lot because I was drinking my water and taking care of myself.

Happiness is not a state you visit for a short period to time. It is a place you reside. Make your home your happiness file and you will find the joy your have been searching for right under your own roof.

January 2nd, 2010 by admin

Have you been wearing your heart on your sleeve? Do you perceive that you have been wronged in some way by others? Are you wearing all the wrongs like a cloak of armor? Have these wrongs been the foundation for your whining? Are they what have kept you from FLYing? Armor is heavy stuff! When we blame others we need to look closely at our own actions. This is why we tell you that this is a NO WHINING ZONE!

Tribes used to sacrifice a poor innocent goat for their sins. They would heap all their sins on the scapegoat and send it out into the wilderness. Have all the wrongs been heaped upon you! Do you feel like the scapegoat? Are you acting like a martyr?

Have you been hoarding these wrongs? This is just like we do with clutter, we hold on to things past their usefulness. When we get our feelings hurt it is best to discuss it as soon as possible. The longer it festers the worse it is on you! Are you hearing this? The person who has wronged you may not even know they have done anything to hurt your feelings or they may not even care. If you don’t talk about it and clear the air; you will be the only one suffering. Discussing the wrong will let you know two things; they are mean and need to be prayed for, or they didn’t know they had hurt your feelings and they apologize.  Either way you have released the wrong and it is no longer being hoarded.

Some of you are going to argue that it is not easy to forgive and forget. If you notice, I didn’t say forget! When a snake shows its fangs this is a warning! If you pick that snake up and put it in your pocket; whose fault is it when you get bitten. Forgiveness is the gift, you give yourself.

You get what you give! But if you give in order to get, you will always be left wanting! At the start of this New Year let’s symbolically take off that armor of wrongs! Put each wrong on a Post-It Note. Imagine that you peel each wrong off your sleeve and put it in an old pie pan. Then take it outside or put it in your fire place and put a match to them. As you watch your wrongs (the ones you have been hoarding) go up in smoke send a prayer of gratitude up with it! Be thankful that you no longer have to hold on to this and thankful that now you know!

If you need more help with this we have some tools for you. I have written an essay called, How to Pray for an Enemy. If you would like it please send me an email to FlyLady@flylady.net with PRAY in the subject line. I will send it to you.

Leanne and I also have a whole chapter in our book, Body Clutter devoted to forgiveness. I just listened to our new audio version. This chapter is powerful!

http://www.flylady.net/pages/FlyShop_bc_dl.asp

My wish for you in this New Year is that you release the wrongs by forgiving others and yourself and open up your wings to FLY!

December 31st, 2009 by admin

As I look back on the past year asked my members what was one of their Go Me Moments. I had to ask myself the same question. What had happened that was an accomplishment for me and what had changed my way of thinking?

The biggest accomplishment for me was when Leanne and I went to Utah and read our book, Body Clutter aloud. I have never been comfortable reading out loud. Spending a week with Leanne as we read was the turning point in my oral skills. She taught me how to read. Well I knew how to read but not without awkward pauses. Her simple analogy of scallops gave me the visual I needed to make the words flow from my mouth. I learned to read to a conjunction or a comma, then pause slightly and proceed. Thanks Leanne for helping me to overcome a fear and giving me the gentle coaching while making me laugh. I will never forget it.

In the years past I never really thought about high school and the people that I grew up with. They were in the past and when you have a busy life, high school friends don’t usually come into your train of thought.  A year ago I joined the social networking site Facebook. At first it was for my members have a place to challenge each other and help one another. It has become a blessing in my life.

Over this past year of reconnecting with old friends, I have watched us grow stronger with our mutual love and support.  We watched the courage and faith of one of our friends as her light of this life faded and she went on to shine in the heavens. She reminded us daily that we are sunbeams touching those around us and to make the most of every precious moment. I may not need the people from high school in my life but they are a part of me and I look forward to seeing them on my Facebook page every morning. They bless me with their wisdom and love!

I don’t know if the software engineers knew when they built Facebook a few years ago that it would bless so many people. Facebook started out just for Harvard students and then it expanded to other universities. Now it has hit the Baby Boomers and we have taken it to a new level.

We have renewed old friendships, made new ones and found lost loved ones. My sisters and I found a first cousin we had not seen in forty years. It was so great to see pictures of her children and realized that we had both named our sons, Justin. It truly is a small world and Facebook helps to shrink it.

I think the greatest thing about Facebook is that it is a newspaper filled with headlines and inspirational messages from our friends and family. Who knew that a computer could keep us connected! It is a bridge to our past and to our future. With this connection we are blessed with a present! Our friends can give us the gift of laughter every day! The only problem is that we could stay on Facebook all day.

December 28th, 2009 by admin

Dear Friends,

Every year we come up with a new motto. I always like to make it something that is easy to remember and emphasizes a key point of FLYing!

The first year we had a motto was 2003. It was “Be Kind to Me in 2003″. Being kind to myself was a New Year’s Resolution when I got organized. We have to quit beating ourselves up with our perfectionism. This resolution changed my life along with my way of thinking. After all you can’t change your circumstances without changing your attitude.

The next year our motto was “Less is More in 2004″. We have held on to so much stuff thinking that we would need it one day. Our homes have become storage units filled with stuff we don’t love or use! The clutter in our life makes keeping our homes impossible. You can’t organize clutter you can only get rid of it. This is why focusing on eliminating clutter with this motto changed many attitudes.

In 2005 our motto was “FLY to Thrive in 2005″! Finally Loving Yourself is what we teach. I realize that you come to use to figure out how to keep your home clean. This is the key to not just existing day to day but flourishing! When you love yourself, you have enough love to go around. Your love blesses others. If your loving cup is empty you had nothing to share. That is when the martyr comes out.

2006 had another great motto that is one of the key components to FLYing! “Simple Routines Do the Trick in 2006″! We try to make everything more difficult than it has to be. We build elaborate routines only to find ourselves unable to do them. Then we forget our other mottos about loving kindness and we beat ourselves up. Simple routines like simple mottos stick in our heads. Building those routines out of our monthly habits sets the foundation for keeping your home ready to bless you and anyone who comes through your door.

Every year a new motto set the stage for an attitude adjustment. 2007’s motto washed over us like a warm breeze and it fills our hearts with love. “Progress not Perfection in 2007″! Do you see how those simple words free us to take little steps to get things done? We don’t have to push ourselves to the brink of exhaustion. We can pace ourselves. This motto has become part of us!

The longest motto we ever had was in 2008. Do it now! Don’t wait! Get things done in 2008! This mottos hits us right in the heart of our procrastination! Procrastination is the result of perfectionism. When we don’t think we have time to do something we put it off. The reason we put it off is really because we don’t think we have time to do it right! What we learned in 2008 was to not put things off. When you hear yourself say “I don’t have time!” just set your timer for 2 minutes and do something. Anything is better than nothing! We got things done in 2008!

In 2009 we focused on our path. One BabyStep at a time, PEACE is mine in 2009! In our excitement to get organized and get our homes clean we want to “hurry up and get there”! It took me nine months to get rid of my clutter and establish routines. It was like giving birth to a new me! Taking those babysteps helped me to accomplish much more than I ever dreamed. Each month I practiced a new habit! Each new habit piggy-backed on the previous month’s habit, before I knew it, I had routines! Those babysteps opened up a little window of peace in my life and in our home. It was immediate! Just like the joy and peace we feel when we look at a shining sink! The peace comes from not having to tackle a sink full of dirty dishes! You can have this peace too! All you have to do is take babysteps and be happy with your progress.

Here is the recap of our mottos over the years. Print them out leaving off the years and put them on your bathroom mirror, your refrigerator or above your sink. Incorporate them into your heart and mind. Watch your life flourish because you made the choice to change your attitude.

Be Kind to Me in 2003
Less is More in 2004
FLY to Thrive in 2005
Simple Routines Do the Trick in 2006
Progress not Perfection in 2007
Do it now! Don’t wait! Get things done in 2008
One BabyStep at a time, PEACE is mine in 2009

2010’s motto can help us get more done than anything tool we have in our toolbox. Our motto is My Timer is my Friend in 2010. Timers are everywhere; your stove, your arm, your microwave. You can even use commercials on TV as timers or songs on the Radio. I use my coffee brewing as a timer to dust mop my floors every day. Most anything can be a timer if you just get creative. A timer helps us to make a game of mundane things. It keeps us focused and tells us when to quit. It gives us a sense of accomplishment. We all just want to have fun. Make friends with your timer this year! It is a friendship that keeps giving you more peace.

Are you ready to FLY into a brand new year with your timer in hand!

FlyLady

Here is one more little thought I want to leave you with:

You are not behind! I don’t want you to try to catch up; I just want you to jump in where we are. O.K.?

Now don’t you feel better?

December 27th, 2009 by admin

The older you get the faster the years fly by! It just seems like yesterday that FlyLady started. For me time flies when you are having fun. I guess that is the message that I want to end this year with and start the new one.

Have you been having fun? That is all most of us want to do anyway! We just want to play! As children we couldn’t wait to get outside and play after a hard day at school. Even though we were told that we could not go outside till our homework was done. We faked being done because we knew the daylight was fading.  Our procrastination forced us to get our homework on the bus or just before class.

The stress of procrastination makes life miserable. Putting things off till later is self punishment. We know eventually that our procrastination will catch up to us. I don’t know why we do this to ourselves but if we can ever do what needs done before it is time, it frees us to have more fun.

When your home is messy you don’t feel like you have time to pursue the fun things in life. You may think you do but that sink full of dirty dishes is still tugging at you and making you feel bad. Wouldn’t it be more fun to play without unconsciously feeling guilty? We deny that our home bothers us. We are liberated women!

If I had not gotten my home in order I would not have recognized my purpose for living! I had always felt that something was missing in my life. My talents were many but as long as I lived in clutter and chaos they never came together to bless my life and the lives of others. I wanted more!

So a decade ago I got up on New Year’s Day beating myself up. Why was I so disorganized! Why couldn’t I keep our home clean! Why was I always late! The list goes on and on! As I made my perpetual New Year’s resolution to “Get Organized” I vowed to figure out what my problem really was. I started looking deep into myself to a time when I had my act together.

The only time in my life that I had ever been able to keep house was when I was using Pam and Peggy’s card file system. As I dug out my old card file; one of many I had built in two decades of striving for organization, I realized that once again I had faked my way so that I could play. I had built my card file but had never really internalized the habits that they were supposed to help me build.  I had thought that the card file was the answer. It was not for me because I had skipped the most important part of Pam and Peggy’s book.

The crucial missing rule to my card file was that when one of the cards becomes a habit; you get to throw it away! I missed it because I was in a hurry to establish the box and had not read the book well. I just wanted to play once again. This realization changed my life. I had never established a habit!

Right then and there I made two New Year’s Resolutions.  They were not huge goals like “getting organized”; they were babysteps! I picked one habit to practice, keeping my sink clean and shiny! That second resolution was all about my attitude toward me! Everytime I beat myself up, I just gave up. I was tired of not living up to my unrealistic perfectionist expectations. It was time that I showed myself a little kindness.

As one established habit eventually evolved into my routines I was free! Free of my own self loathing, free of a messy home and free to have fun!

Are you ready to have some fun? Time FLYs when you do!

For more help getting rid of your CHAOS, check out her website and join her free mentoring group at  www.FlyLady.net or her book, Sink Reflections published by Bantam and her New York Times Best Selling book, Body Clutter published by Fireside. Copyright 2009 Marla Cilley Used by permission in this publication.

December 20th, 2009 by admin

Last Friday we got up to our first snowfall of the season. Snow always puts me in a cooking mood.  Since I might be needed to shovel later I decided that a nice bowl of oats would be a great start to my day. I grab our box of Quaker oatmeal and read the directions. It had been a while since I had made any. I measured out the last of that box, noticed that I had a fresh box in the pantry. That means I need to put oats on our grocery list. I hate to run out of things. It is so nice to have a backup. That really isn’t what I wanted to talk to you about.  It was when I reached into our utensil drawer and pulled out a spoon that got me to thinking about things.

The old silver plate spoon that we use for cooking has been in Robert’s family a very long time. He came by it when his Aunt Mary went into assisted living and he was helping to clean out the house.  He needed a spoon, this one had no value at all except memories. It is the first spoon that each of us reachs for when we start to cook.

As I stirred my oats I thought of all the people who had stirred a similar pot of oatmeal to start their day. I could tell that it has been used by a right handed person because the bottom of the spoon was worn down. If this spoon could talk, it would tell us of the many bowls of oats it had served up or the gravy it had made to feed a hungry family.

What it told me was, that it was a spoon that was loved because it was used. The consistency of daily use had gently but lovingly molded it through the generations. My husband had appreciated its imperfections and brought it home to be loved by our family.

When we got married Aunt Mary told me a story about the day she was born. Her father had given her mother six serving spoons to match the family Chantilly silver. They were engraved with a “C” for Cilley. This was the silver that was only used on special occasions. That day Aunt Mary gave us one of those Chantilly serving spoons.  That spoon is used every Thanksgiving at our home. It holds a special place in our hearts and in our silver chest but it is not loved the way that everyday cooking spoon is.

Once a day that old worn out old spoon blesses us! It stirs up something warm and wonderful in our home! It reminds me that consistency molds our lives with good habits. Those habits keep us healthy and create peace in our homes. When you string those simple habits into life changing routines you are free to FLY! Finally Loving Yourself is the spoon that serves up wonderful things in your life.  Are you ready to spread your wings and FLY?

December 16th, 2009 by admin

All of our lives we have spent putting out fires. These fires were started by our perfectionism and our procrastination. Along with panic of these fires come the squeals of martyrdom and yells of dissatisfaction. We have all done this and it is our family who have had listen to it.

Why do we torture our family with hurtful words? I can tell you why! You are so stressed out and feeling like a martyr! This has got to stop! I can help you get rid of the stress, but it us up to you to curb those angry words. The first step is to follow our directions for your routines, getting dressed to shoes, hair and face.

It is up to you to change your attitude toward your family! Once you change your martyred outlook to one of blessing your family and giving teaching moments, you will see a change in them. I know that you don’t believe me, but you can only change yourself. It is by your example that your family will begin to help and support your efforts to secure a peaceful home.

What does your wicked tongue do to your children, your husband and most of all you?  It doesn’t tell them you love them.  It makes them feel less than; it hurts their self-worth. They feel that they have no say in things. It makes your husband feel that he is married to his mother! I don’t even want to go there. They feel like servants, instead of family members. Those harsh words are worse than a whipping. You cut your family out of the conversational loop. The family can’t even say what is on their mind because they are afraid of you. Home life is based on the fear of not making mother mad. Your family members hide from you. They become afraid to tell you when something happens.

After those words have come from your lips, just how do you feel then? Do you feel laden with guilt or do you even realize you are barking nasty remarks their way. Oblivious to the torture you have inflicted upon your loved ones.

There is absolutely no excuse for this. I don’t want to hear that this is the only way I can get my family to do anything. This is the lie that you tell yourself to not feel guilty. It is time to forgive yourself and then ask them to forgive you.

Many times in our lives we are faced with things that are difficult. As sidetracked people we allow our perfectionism to hurt us and our children. We just do not know that is what is causing us to be raving banshees.

Now you have a chance to change by taking actions. You may not have known how to change in the past but you are learning. Take these words into your heart and forgive yourself. You know the things you have said. This can be the beginning of a new relationship with your family.

I would like to suggest that you start writing your feelings down too. Not just the pain you are feeling but how you can change. First you have to forgive yourself. You are just learning these things; the more you write the more you will discover about yourself. You are not expected to be perfect. Love yourself enough to take these words and go forward from here. This is not the end but the beginning of a new life. After you forgive yourself and get in touch with your own feelings; then you can ask for forgiveness. My heart goes out to you! My prayers are with you and your whole family.

You can do this; you found us because you were looking for a change in your life. You are willing to make changes.

Your tongue can criticize or it can encourage. The choice is all yours. If you have not changed your attitude, then how can you expect to see a change in them! It has to come from the heart. If not they will see right through you. They may not even believe it at first, because you will not be sounding like the mother that have been used to all your life. The children may think the aliens have taken their real mother away. Prove to them and their father that you have changed.  Sprinkle your words of love, encouragement and teaching, all over your home. Apologize for your tongue. Don’t play the martyr game anymore. No one loves a martyr. Not even you!

It time to FLY without the Guilt; forgive yourself!

December 7th, 2009 by admin

Love is a word that is very deceptive maybe even illusive if we look at it as a noun. It is not something that we can buy and hold in our hands, it is a word that is filled with action. Love is a verb. This word is not just a feeling it is a doing. For years all I ever wanted was to feel loved. That did not happen because I was looking for love in all the wrong places; as the song says. I was not going to find this love coming at me and surrounding me as a fog. I was not going to feel this love from other people. I was searching so hard for this love that I never dreamed that it was hiding right inside of me. The reason we have a hard time finding this love is that the clutter we have in our heads is standing in the way. When we can address this most personal of our Body Clutter we will begin finding what we are looking for.

Men and women equate love much differently. For a man to show love he often reveals it in actions; checking our tires, changing the oil, he is doing something. He may not be good at sentimental cards and flowers which is how we women equate love. This is why we need to look at the various ways that love is done. How do you love your children? You feed them, dress them, bathe them, and do things for them. We do the same thing for the critters in our lives. We scratch their ears and rub their bellies. Robert explained this to me this morning. A few years ago our hound dog Lucy died and we got another sweet hound dog. He said that he could sit in his chair and think about how much he loves this new dog or he could get up and go over and pet her. Then he would be loving on her and she would feel his love for her. It would not be a passive experience just for him but a shared event for both of them.

Then he turned this around. He said when we are loving ourselves we are the giver and the recipient at the same time. That is when he headed out the door to play in the woods. This is one thing that he loves to do. When you are doing things that you love; you are loving yourself. With our FLYing way of life we only surround ourselves with things we love. We turn chores into blessings and release the stress from our lives by using routines to put us on autopilot. These are all forms of love but in our female definition of love this is just stuff we have to do.

We have to find ways to show ourselves love the way we understand it and will recognize it as love. But since we are doing it for ourselves we just don’t accept it in the same way we would if it came from someone else. This is why we have a new Pampering habit for December. These are little things that we can do each day to pamper ourselves. They can be anything that you can think of to do something nice for you. You can snuggle with a cup of warmth or curl up with a favorite book or magazine. Settle into a tub of bubbles or put on some of your favorite music. Pick up a flower at the grocery store so that every time you look at it you will smile. Light candles in your home or put crystals in the window so that rainbows dance across your room. These always make me smile.

I was taught many years ago by Rita Davenport to fake it till you make it. I didn’t really know what that meant till recently; I just did like she said. Fake it till you make it, is nothing but practicing till a habit becomes automatic. Imagine that, practicing loving ourselves with little habits that tell us we are loved by the person who does those little things that make us feel the love we so deserve. The martyr goes away and you are surrounded by the loving feeling that you have been searching for.

So practice loving yourself first by simple actions and eventually you will not do things that you don’t love and you will not have items in your home that do not put a smile on your face. This act of love is as contagious as your shining sink. You are just shining your heart.

Are you ready to Finally Love Yourself? One little habit at a time.